Whether by choice or due to a specific situation, some women go for long periods without sex. This can change their behavior quite a bit. They may be more embarrassed, nervous, or shy than a woman more sexually active.
If your new relationship is slower than you’re used to, or you’re not quite understanding why the woman in your life is acting so strange, it may be because you’re dealing with a sexually inactive woman. Look at these 13 signs that a woman has not been sexually active in years and see if there are any that describe your partner.
13 Signs That a Woman Has Not Been Sexually Active
There are many reasons a woman hasn’t been sexually active, and there are many signs to show the same. If you’re worried that your woman may not find you attractive or be cheating on you, don’t fret just yet. The reality is that she just might not be sexually active. It might have been a long time since the last time she had sex, and it may affect how her relationship with you goes.
If you notice a few of these signs from a woman, it might be time to sit down and talk to her. She might be nervous or lacking the confidence to initiate.
1. Lack of Confidence
Is your woman often shy, whether you two are alone or in public? If she’s scared to speak up, doubts herself, or doesn’t want to make the final decision about anything, she may lack confidence. Women who don’t feel confident rarely take the initiative to initiate sex, and may therefore have not been sexually active in a while.
2. No Sexually Transmitted Infections
Of course, no one wants a partner that has an STI. However, if a woman doesn’t seem worried about having an STI at all, or hasn’t ever had one, it’s a good sign that your woman has rarely, if ever been sexually active. It’s always a good idea to check, even if your partner doesn’t seem concerned, to make sure they haven’t had one that’s been dormant for a long time.
3. Not Discussing Recent Partners
Does she tell you about old partners, but the ones she’s talking about are from years ago? You may be worried that she’s hiding something, but it’s more likely that she hasn’t had a partner in a very long time.
If she’s someone who prefers a slower relationship and does not engage in sex until after a relationship is established, then she might not have had sex since her last serious partner. And, unless you’re a rebound, this could have been years before she met you.
4. Shy During Sex
In addition to the lack of confidence outside of the bedroom, she’s likely shy during sex. She won’t tell you what she wants, is quiet even during sex, or gets so anxious that she can’t finish. If you try to do something even outside of vanilla topics, she may make you stop or get flustered if you turn the attention to her. These are all signs of a lack of experience.
5. Clingy
Does your woman want to be around you all the time and spend as much time together as possible? Clingy women generally are more inexperienced when it comes to sex than the average woman.
She might not know how to initiate or want to feel more comfortable before moving on to sexual activity. They may also be trying to get plenty of physical touch without crossing over into sexual activity. All of these reasons make for a rather clingy woman.
6. Look for Sexual Validation on Various Platforms
Is the woman very shy and conservative in person or in public? Does that same woman post pictures of herself in skimpy clothing or look a lot more bold in photos on social media?
Women who haven’t had sex in a long time tend to be a bit more conservative and embarrassed in person. However, they may still look for sexual validation via social media or dating sites.
7. Jealous of Other Women
Does your woman get angry every time you look at someone attractive? Maybe she notices every hand placement or flirtatious laugh. Women who are insecure in their own appearance or sexual skills tend to be more jealous. They may feel like they don’t have as much to give and get worried when you find someone who can offer more than they could.
8. Overly Affectionate
Many women are aware that sex is a big part of relationships. If your partner is meeting your needs in every other way, they may be trying to make up for what they’re lacking. Women feeling guilty for not having sex in a long time will often be more attentive to your needs, and demand less from you as a partner.
9. Easily Aroused
If you do end up getting flirty, she may be more easily aroused than previous partners. After all, if she hasn’t had sex in a while, she is likely more sensitive and has more desire built up than a woman who had sex in recent history. Even whispering in her ear or a long kiss could be enough to get her in the mood.
10. Embarrassed or Avoiding Talking About Sex
Does your partner balk at even talking about sex? It’s important to talk about all parts of your relationship, including the sex. But if she often runs out of the room or gets embarrassed when you bring it up, she might not have a lot of experience.
Sex might still be such a novelty idea for her that she’s flustered at the thought. Growing up in a stricter environment may have also led her to be more embarrassed and even ashamed of the action.
11. Focusing on Other Parts of Their Life to the Extreme
Is this woman focused on parts of her life outside of a relationship? She could be a workaholic, or overly dedicated to her family. Those who don’t have a serious relationship or casual sex taking up their time will focus on other parts of their life to distract them or to fill up their days with something.
12. She Needs a Lot of Commitment Before Considering Sex
Some girls are ready to have sex after meeting in a bar. Others need more commitment. They may not even consider playing around or heavy kissing until well into the relationship.
If you have a woman like this, they may not have had much sex, or it may have been a while since they last participated in the action. You can also talk to her to see when her last serious relationship was. If it’s been a while, and she’s a woman who needs a lot of commitment, it’s a good guess that she hasn’t had sex in a while.
13. Pushes off Having Sex as Long as Possible
When you want to engage in a little love-making, does she push you away, or come up with excuses? She might not directly say no but finds other ways to get out of it. This is a good sign that she’s inexperienced and still a little shy about her actions.
It’s common for women who haven’t had sex in a while to feel embarrassed, whether about how well they perform the action or their bodies. Either way, you can rest assured that she’s been sexually inactive for a while.
